How often do you feel tired by simply living your life? Do you ever feel like there is so much to do and so little time to enjoy?
Are you currently trying to do more so you can feel heard, seen, loved or acknowledged?
You are always trying to seek love, but never from within. It is exhausting because, no matter what you do, you never feel the self-love and peace that comes with just being.
Let’s all embody the truth that all the love we need is already within ourselves. No one can make you feel that other than you.
Relax…breathe…and let yourself be!
Let Yourself Be, Not Do!
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RAGAN: Hello, hello, hello, everyone. Blessing, blessings, blessings to you. Hope you’re having a wonderful start to your day, or perhaps it’s the middle of your day, or into Your day, whenever you’re listening to this audio. I’m so, so, grateful to be with you. How are you being today? We are human beings, not human doings. I love saying that, because that has been one of the greatest teachings that I have ever come across and that simple way of stating it. This idea of just being as we are, that is enough. Not this, have to do something, and become something, and try to look good, or appear to be good, do the right thing all the time, and do something. Finally, to receive the praise, and the acknowledgements, and the love, and to feel finally seen in this life. We don’t realize how much we’re doing to get that. Where is that truly coming from?
RAGAN: Let’s all just take a deep breath right here. Letting go on the out breath. You might already notice that your energy’s starting to stir because of this. Maybe, you’re starting to notice your life, feeling into your life right now, taking a moment to observe yourself in your life. How much are you doing to try to receive acknowledgement and praise? Because, at the end of the day, you’re having a challenge giving it to yourself. Self love, self care, self nurturing, self compassion, just self love. Yeah. That just wraps it all up in a big umbrella. Doesn’t it? All of it.
RAGAN: The way that most of us have been doing it, up until this point, due to usually our parental modeling, we have been trying to become something for someone else. Sometimes, it’s for our parents, maybe it was for our partner, maybe it was for our work partner, maybe in a friendship you started to shape shift yourself to match with the resonance of that friendship. That’s something I want to talk a little more deeper today, how we sometimes shapeshift ourselves to match the resonance with someone else in our lives, so that we can feel … Like I was saying before, this needy energy, this pushing resistant energy, the needy self, which is a part of the ego self, this needy safety seeking mechanism which is the ego, constantly trying to get needs met from a needy perspective. So, this need to be acknowledged, this need to be seen, this need to receive praise, and this confusion, this trap that we’re inside of that we can’t get that and receive that by simply just being. It needs to come from what we’re doing.
RAGAN: This can play out in every area of your life more than you know. Taking that moment right now just to reflect on that in your own life, how much doingness is going on rather than beingness? One to 10, 10 being a lot on the spectrum of how much doingness you feel like you’re doing as a whole, versus beingness. 10 being a lot, one being really low, what’s your number? Good. Thank you for your honesty with yourself.
RAGAN: I want to remind you of something very powerful and important with the message that’s coming through. We cannot transform or change anything about ourselves that we cannot see. Choosing to see it is the first step, which is a major step, which is the biggest part of this journey to heal it is to see it. Your number you just gave, is it your honest answer, or could there be some work to do in this department?
RAGAN: If you were around a seven, eight, or nine, congratulations, you’re on your way to becoming more at a state of just being and being okay with who you are, as you are, rather than the trying energy, which is really a pushing energy, which leads into what I was talking about the needy self. If you’re a five, half the time you’re doing it, half the time you’re not. If you’re below a five, we’ve got some work to do. And that’s okay, because, listen, you want to know that you have work to do, so that you can work on it.
RAGAN: If you decide to pretend like there’s no work to do, how are you going to work on it? If you’re starting from ground zero right now, then congratulations. You’re starting. That’s what’s exciting about this journey of healing. We start where we start. Until we start, we don’t start. As soon as we do, things start to change, things start to transform. Yes, sometimes when we go into these uncomfortable spots within ourselves, these crevices, this old unresolved material, it can feel a little scary or unsettling.
RAGAN: I say that’s like going into the fire. We always come out of the fire different, an changed, and transformed. You don’t come out of the fire the same. You do evolve. You do grow. But, it does take bravery to go into the fire. Going into the fire right now, around this idea of stepping into more beingness. Okay, taking that deep breath.
RAGAN: In a moment, here, I’m going to move us into a prayer to help remove any obstacles around you stepping into your full on beingness in this life, letting go of all the doing energy, as much as possible, just lessening it greatly. In that respect, let’s think about, maybe for you, where did you pick up this need to receive acknowledgement, praise, or love, in this life? This need for it, by getting it from others and getting it through what you’re doing, where might you have picked that up? Was it from a family member? Was it from a friendship? Did you see both your parents doing it? Maybe you saw one parent doing it? Where did you pick it up?
RAGAN: Now, instead of judging yourself for this or noticing something that might be new for you, that might still be going on, something you’ve been working on for a while, can you just relax into the knowingness that right now you’re working with it again, or working with it for the first time, and that is okay? You are where you are at. It is very powerful to have understanding of where it might’ve come from, so that way you can transform it. Just have more compassion for yourself, like, “Oh, okay, I get it. No wonder this has been happening. I picked it up from over here or from over there.” Maybe you found it in the media. You saw it in a magazine. It appears that everybody is doing good stuff, looking good, doing good, looks happier, some kind of message you got, some sort of belief that you picked up along the way.
RAGAN: That’s what we do. We formulate these beliefs, some of them very irrational and limiting. We pick them up from our environment. We need to rewire our belief system. Yes? To update our belief system to the highest ability, of our highest ability, to the truth. The truth of what’s true, so that you can set yourself free from these limiting beliefs.
RAGAN: Perhaps, you have a belief inside you that, unless you’re doing something productive, you aren’t worthy. How about this one? Unless you are successful, then you can’t be happy with what you’re doing in this world. These are just a couple of them. If you are not doing, then you’re being lazy. There’s another one. Oh, does anyone have that one going on? If I’m not doing something consistently, I’m lazy.
RAGAN: I had someone very special in my life, early in life. This is not going to be a pleasant thing to hear, but it was said to me, and by someone very important. “If you’re not being productive in this world, then you’re taking up space on this planet”. You can imagine, from a young … It happened at a young age when I heard that. I just ran with it. I was like, “Wow. Holy moly. I’m going to take up space.” Basically, I just felt like I could just be rid of. I was so young I just didn’t understand what she was saying, and I just felt for sure I’m just going to be wiped off the planet. I’ve got to get productive and I got to get productive every day. I’d wake up every morning feeling anxious and feeling anxious about my day. I didn’t wake up feeling settled or at ease. I woke feeling like, okay, I have a list. I need to be productive. Oh, my gosh, that went on for years. If I can rewire this, you can rewire this.
RAGAN: I don’t wake up anxious anymore. I don’t wake up feeling anxiety. I actually wake up pretty at ease. It’s nice. It’s really nice. I do have things to do, such as help my kids get ready for school, or get them breakfast, do my spiritual practice. These are things that I look forward to doing. From moment to moment, from there, is moment to moment. I’m not already ahead of myself, thinking about the rest of my day the moment I wake up. Thank god for our phones. There’s these wonderful calendars we have. We don’t have try to remember all that anymore. Back in the day, man, we tried to store all that in our minds. We are not human computers to store that type of information. We are meant to store only what’s in our highest and greatest. I promise you, dates, and times, and phone numbers, not necessary, and certainly not beneficial to store. So bless our phones for that reason (laughing). Thank you so much for hearing this.
RAGAN: What we want to do, again, if you’re finding yourself doing, doing, doing, doing, doing, rather than being, then can you just have so much compassion for yourself right now? Literally, I want you to close your eyes, put your hands over your heart, and say your name out loud. I’ll practice it with you: “Ragan, I know that you’ve been trying and doing so much in this life to receive praise”. Repeat my words, saying your own name. “Acknowledgement, love, to feel seen, to feel heard, and I am so sorry, for I know that it has been a painful journey, because sometimes it’s available and sometimes it’s not. Even when it is available, it’s temporary, this sensation it gives you. It’s temporary, because the the deeper wound, the deeper healing, is inside. It doesn’t come from outside”. Take a deep breath. “I have so much compassion for you”. Repeating these words, “I love you just as you are, and you don’t have to do anything to receive my love”. Take a deep breath. Good.
RAGAN: Taking a moment, now, just to feel whatever you feel based on that little practice that we just did together, just noticing your feelings. Do you feel calm? Do you feel some energy stirring, some sadness, anger, resentment? Just allowing that feeling to come. You might even recognize what the feeling is, letting it rise, and just letting the feeling know: “I see you, I feel you, and I hear you. I’m right here with you.” That’s what the feeling wants, just the opportunity to be heard and to come up and out, rather than to push it down and resist it. That’s what helps it move, the energy move within the feeling. These feelings that we have are temporary. They’re not who we are. Good.
RAGAN: I’d like you to take all your attention and all your awareness now, into your heart, please, into your sacred heart. Connecting your hands to your heart, feeling the energy of your heart now, sitting in your heart, feeling your heart. Good. Allow yourself to just feel what you feel here, as you connect to your heart. Doing your very best, now, to reside here in your heart space, during the entirety of what we’re moving into next, which is the prayer that is being divinely channeled for you today. If you’re on this audio, it’s because you were meant to be on this audio. This was divinely meant for you to experience this. Okay? Good. Taking a deep breath, moving into prayer. Please just listen and let every word move through your heart space.
RAGAN: I thank you, I thank you, I thank you so very much mother, father, God, Goddess, for this beautiful divine blessed day. For, in this day, right now, here in this space and place, it is true that the present moment is happening. In this moment, there’s nothing we need to do, there’s nothing we need to appear as, there’s nowhere we need to be. We just, as we are, are already unique and divine expressions of God. It is true that everything we seek, everything we desire, it is already within us. All the love, the joy, the beauty, the bliss, the faith, the compassion, the gratitude, the abundance, it’s all there.
RAGAN: I know, mother, father, God, Goddess, that sometimes I forget this, and I have been trying and doing so much to access this from others. If I could just do enough, be enough, then finally I’ll find this love, maybe some appreciation or acknowledgment. All these wonderful things that are available already inside me, I’ve been trying to get it outside of me, thinking that finally I’m going to feel it from someone that is just pouring it on me enough, because of something I’ve done, and that I will feel this love that I’ve been seeking, this appreciation, acknowledgement to feel seen, to feel heard.
RAGAN: I realize, mother, father, God, Goddess, I’ve been confused. I don’t need to try to do anything to receive love. The love I seek, it truly is within me. It’s within me. It’s in my soul. It is within my soul. There is no lack. There is no limitation. The only thing standing in the way of me remembering this truth is myself.
RAGAN: I ask you, mother, father, God, Goddess, help me have courage to get out of my own way and step into the truth of being, more and more, and step into my beingness, to simply just be as I am and let that be more than enough, to be as I am, to love myself as I am, right now. I don’t have to wait for it to get it from somebody else. I don’t have to try to do more to receive this love. I already can receive this love, most importantly, from myself. Right now, I say yes to this. I say yes to this. Please, I ask you for any kind of courage or encouragement, as I walk forward, that I may need to remember this consistently in my life. I say yes to your help, mother, father, God, Goddess, I say yes. Thank you so much. With these words, I say, so it is.
RAGAN: Taking a deep and slow breath (deep breath). Once more (deep breath). Good. Well, thank you so much for joining me on this audio today. It’s such an honor and just a pure joy for me to share with you. I hope this was helpful for you, and I will speak with you another time. Many blessings. Have a wonderful rest of your day. Okay. Bye-bye.